title: The discourses of intimacy: adding a social constructionist and feminist view.
abstract: Though most people desire intimacy in their primary relationships, it is more elusive than not. I argue that people's assumptions about intimacy interfere with their creation of it. Using a social constructionist and feminist perspective, two prevailing discourses of intimacy that shape our ideas about intimacy are identified and critiqued. Both tend to direct attention away from an assessment of particular interactions to a global assessment of the capacity of an individual or a relationship to provide intimacy. An alternative is proposed in which intimacy is conceptualized as built up from single intimate or non-intimate interactions that can produce a variety of experiences, including connection and domination. My critique of the two discourses of intimacy rests fundamentally on the belief that they obscure crucial distinctions that a discourse of intimacy as meaning-making would reveal, in particular, that there are politics nestled in the heart of intimacy.
authors.affiliation: Family Institute of Cambridge, Watertown, MA.
authors.forename: K
authors.initials: K
authors.lastname: Weingarten
mesh_terms: D000223:Adaptation, Psychological; D005196:Family Therapy; D005260:Female; D005783:Gender Identity; D006801:Humans; D007206:Individuality; D007398:Interpersonal Relations; D008297:Male; D012650:Self Disclosure; D012723:Sex