title: Once hurt, twice hurtful: how perceived regard regulates daily marital interactions.
abstract: A daily diary study examined how chronic perceptions of a partner's regard affect how intimates interpret and respond to daily relationship stresses. Spouses each completed a diary for 21 days. Multilevel analyses revealed that people who felt less positively regarded read more into stressful events than did people who felt highly regarded, feeling more hurt on days after acute threats, such as those posed by a moody or ill-behaved partner. Intimates who felt less valued responded to feeling hurt by behaving badly toward their partner on subsequent days. In contrast, intimates who felt more valued responded to feeling hurt by drawing closer to their partner. Ironically, chronically activated needs for belongingness might lead people who are trying to find acceptance to undermine their marriage.
authors.affiliation: Department of Psychology, University at Buffalo, State University of New York, 14260-4110, USA. smurray@acsu.buffalo.edu
authors.forename: Sandra L
authors.initials: SL
authors.lastname: Murray
authors.forename: Gina M
authors.initials: GM
authors.lastname: Bellavia
authors.forename: Paul
authors.initials: P
authors.lastname: Rose
authors.forename: Dale W
authors.initials: DW
authors.lastname: Griffin
mesh_terms: D000328:Adult; D001290:Attitude; D005260:Female; D005500:Follow-Up Studies; D006801:Humans; D007398:Interpersonal Relations; D008297:Male; D008393:Marriage / Q000523:psychology*; D008960:Models, Psychological; D011795:Surveys and Questionnaires