title: What is a good death? Terminally ill patients dealing with normative expectations around death and dying.
abstract: OBJECTIVE
  Developing good care for dying people is important nowadays. Normative expectations about what could be considered as a good death are inextricably bound up with this issue. This article aims to offer an insight in the way terminally ill patients talk about death and dying and how they refer to current western normative expectations about a 'good' death.
  
  
  METHODS
  Thirteen patients with a life expectancy of less than 3 months living at home were interviewed about how they experienced the last phase of their lives. The analysis focused on the way patients tell their personal stories by using normative expectations that are part of a broader cultural western framework.
  
  
  RESULTS
  Five categories of normative expectations were discriminated in the stories of patients: awareness and acceptance, open communication, living one's life till the end, taking care of one's final responsibilities and dealing adequately with emotions.
  
  
  CONCLUSIONS
  The results of this study show that in the search of a good death people show a clear diversity in their way of referring to as well as in dealing with normative expectations that are part of the current cultural paradigm.
  
  
  CONCLUSIONS
  Professional caregivers should be responsive to how a patient deals with and relates to normative expectations about a good death and should support patients in their individual process of dying an 'appropriate death'.
authors.affiliation: Department of Health Care Ethics and Philosophy, Maastricht University, P.O. Box 616, 6200 MD Maastricht, The Netherlands. m.goldsteen@zw.unimaas.nl
authors.forename: Minke
authors.initials: M
authors.lastname: Goldsteen
authors.forename: Rob
authors.initials: R
authors.lastname: Houtepen
authors.forename: Ireen M
authors.initials: IM
authors.lastname: Proot
authors.forename: Huda Huijer
authors.initials: HH
authors.lastname: Abu-Saad
authors.forename: Cor
authors.initials: C
authors.lastname: Spreeuwenberg
authors.forename: Guy
authors.initials: G
authors.lastname: Widdershoven
mesh_terms: D000223:Adaptation, Psychological; D000328:Adult; D000368:Aged; D000369:Aged, 80 and over; D001291:Attitude of Health Personnel; D001293:Attitude to Death; D001294:Attitude to Health; D001364:Awareness; D017028:Caregivers / Q000523:psychology; D002755:Choice Behavior; D003142:Communication; D005190:Family / Q000523:psychology; D005260:Female; D006801:Humans; D008297:Male; D008875:Middle Aged; D020380:Needs Assessment; D009369:Neoplasms / Q000523:psychology; D009426:Netherlands; D015404:Nursing Methodology Research; D010344:Patient Advocacy; D036301:Qualitative Research; D012944:Social Support; D012945:Social Values; D011795:Surveys and Questionnaires; D013727:Terminal Care / Q000458:organization & administration / Q000523:psychology; D019452:Terminally Ill / Q000523:psychology*