title: "Trying to be a good parent" as defined by interviews with parents who made phase I, terminal care, and resuscitation decisions for their children.
abstract: OBJECTIVE
  When a child's cancer progresses beyond current treatment capability, the parents are likely to participate in noncurative treatment decision making. One factor that helps parents to make these decisions and remain satisfied with them afterward is deciding as they believe a good parent would decide. Because being a good parent to a child with incurable cancer has not been formally defined, we conducted a descriptive study to develop such a definition.
  
  
  METHODS
  In face-to-face interviews, 62 parents who had made one of three decisions (enrollment on a phase I study, do not resuscitate status, or terminal care) for 58 patients responded to two open-ended questions about the definition of a good parent and about how clinicians could help them fulfill this role. For semantic content analysis of the interviews, a rater panel trained in this method independently coded all responses. Inter-rater reliability was excellent.
  
  
  RESULTS
  Among the aspects of the definition qualitatively identified were making informed, unselfish decisions in the child's best interest, remaining at the child's side, showing the child that he is cherished, teaching the child to make good decisions, advocating for the child with the staff, and promoting the child's health. We also identified 15 clinician strategies that help parents be a part of making these decisions on behalf of a child with advanced cancer.
  
  
  CONCLUSIONS
  The definition and the strategies may be used to guide clinicians in helping parents fulfill the good parent role and take comfort afterward in having acted as a good parent.
authors.affiliation: School of Medicine, Department of Pediatrics, George Washington University, Washington, DC, USA. pshinds@cnmc.org
authors.forename: Pamela S
authors.initials: PS
authors.lastname: Hinds
authors.forename: Linda L
authors.initials: LL
authors.lastname: Oakes
authors.forename: Judy
authors.initials: J
authors.lastname: Hicks
authors.forename: Brent
authors.initials: B
authors.lastname: Powell
authors.forename: Deo Kumar
authors.initials: DK
authors.lastname: Srivastava
authors.forename: Sheri L
authors.initials: SL
authors.lastname: Spunt
authors.forename: Joann
authors.initials: J
authors.lastname: Harper
authors.forename: Justin N
authors.initials: JN
authors.lastname: Baker
authors.forename: Nancy K
authors.initials: NK
authors.lastname: West
authors.forename: Wayne L
authors.initials: WL
authors.lastname: Furman
mesh_terms: D000223:Adaptation, Psychological; D000293:Adolescent; D000328:Adult; D001291:Attitude of Health Personnel; D002648:Child; D002651:Child Advocacy; D002675:Child, Preschool; D002755:Choice Behavior; D017321:Clinical Trials, Phase I as Topic / Q000523:psychology*; D005260:Female; D007722:Health Knowledge, Attitudes, Practice; D006801:Humans; D007223:Infant; D007407:Interviews as Topic; D008297:Male; D008875:Middle Aged; D009369:Neoplasms / Q000628:therapy*; D010166:Palliative Care / Q000523:psychology*; D010287:Parent-Child Relations; D010290:Parents / Q000523:psychology*; D011368:Professional-Family Relations; D016414:Resuscitation Orders / Q000523:psychology*; D029181:Spirituality; D013727:Terminal Care / Q000523:psychology*; D055815:Young Adult