title: Exploring the basis for gender differences in the demand-withdraw pattern.
abstract: During marital conflict, wives tend to demand and husbands tend to withdraw. These behaviors were historically thought to stem from essential differences between men and women. An alternative explanation implicates one form of power differences-wives desire more change and, therefore, demand; husbands desire less change and withdraw to maintain status quo. Studying same-sex as well as cross-sex couples enables an evaluation of both explanations. We examined demand-withdraw behaviors in 63 heterosexual, gay, and lesbian couples. The demand-withdraw pattern was seen regardless of type of couple. Further, for all couples, differences in the amount of change desired in partners during a conflict interaction predicted differences in demand and withdraw behaviors. These results offer further evidence that an often-observed difference in heterosexual relationships may result from social conventions that afford men greater power and women less power.
authors.affiliation: Department of Psychology, University of California, Berkeley, Berkeley, California 94720-5050, USA.
authors.forename: Sarah R
authors.initials: SR
authors.lastname: Holley
authors.forename: Virginia E
authors.initials: VE
authors.lastname: Sturm
authors.forename: Robert W
authors.initials: RW
authors.lastname: Levenson
mesh_terms: D000328:Adult; D001519:Behavior / Q000502:physiology; D003220:Conflict, Psychological; D005260:Female; D018452:Homosexuality, Female / Q000523:psychology*; D018451:Homosexuality, Male / Q000523:psychology*; D006801:Humans; D007398:Interpersonal Relations; D008297:Male; D011209:Power, Psychological; D012727:Sex Characteristics; D018454:Spouses / Q000523:psychology*; D055815:Young Adult
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