Compulsive "helpfulness": or, how I learned to stop working so hard and love the group.
Compulsive helpfulness, an anxiety-laden need by the therapist to feel helpful, akin to the notion of rescuing others, is a potential pitfall in developing an effective psychotherapy group. It can be regarded variously: (1) as a reaction formation against feelings of boredom and frustration stimulated by such phenomena as group resistance or the enactment of inauthentic relationships in the group; (2) as a therapist style driven by a transferential reaction to be regarded as competent and worthy; (3) as an induced countertransference enactment tied to group members' frustration and passivity about their own interpersonal inadequacies; (4) and as a manic defense against despair over the feeling that one's loving has not done any good. In this essay, the author explores his struggle to identify and come to terms with compulsive helpfulness as a dominant theme in the early stages of his tenure as leader of a psychotherapy group.
Derner Institute of Advanced Psychological Studies, Adelphi University, NY, USA. marksammons@goodclearthinking.com
Mark T
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Sammons
D003192:Compulsive Behavior; D003379:Countertransference; D004644:Emotions; D006126:Group Processes; D006379:Helping Behavior; D006801:Humans; D007398:Interpersonal Relations; D011615:Psychotherapy, Group / Q000379:methods; D014163:Transfer, Psychology