title: The experience of becoming a grandmother to a premature infant - a balancing act, influenced by ambivalent feelings.
abstract: OBJECTIVE
  To explore and describe the experience of becoming a grandmother to a premature infant.
  
  
  BACKGROUND
  Becoming a grandmother involves a new perspective of life. Grandmothers of sick infants find themselves in a new situation with an adult child undergoing serious stress. Few studies have approached the grandmothers' own experience of becoming a grandmother to a premature infant.
  
  
  METHODS
  A qualitative content analysis was used.
  
  
  METHODS
  Eleven women, 52-66 years of age, who were grandmothers to premature infants born at a gestational age of 25-34 weeks, were interviewed during 2010. The infants were less than three years old at the time of the interview. The interviews were analysed with qualitative content analysis.
  
  
  RESULTS
  The overall theme was a balancing act. Two categories of experience were identified: emotional experiences and a new role. 'Emotional experiences' was related to the first meeting, ambivalent feelings and confidence in care. 'A new role' was related to the subcategories supportive, a balance of involvement and limitations.
  
  
  CONCLUSIONS
  To become a grandmother to a premature infant was experienced as a balancing act influenced by ambivalent feelings of joy, fear and worry. The grandmothers sensed the seriousness of the situation at the same time as they wanted to be happy about the newborn infant. They worried about their adult child's as well as the premature infant's health but put their own needs aside. The grandmothers' new role was a balance between being involved and supportive without disturbing.
  
  
  CONCLUSIONS
  Neonatal intensive care unit staff should be open to grandmothers' needs and acknowledge them as an obvious support for the immediate family of a premature infant. The grandmothers need guidance and information about what to expect concerning the infants health, the parents situation and their own role.
authors.affiliation: , Division of Nursing Science, Department of Medicine and Health, Faculty of Health Sciences, Linköping University, Linköping, Sweden.
authors.forename: Gunilla H
authors.initials: GH
authors.lastname: Frisman
authors.forename: Carrie
authors.initials: C
authors.lastname: Eriksson
authors.forename: Sara
authors.initials: S
authors.lastname: Pernehed
authors.forename: Evalotte
authors.initials: E
authors.lastname: Mörelius
mesh_terms: D000368:Aged; D002675:Child, Preschool; D004644:Emotions; D005190:Family / Q000523:psychology*; D006801:Humans; D007223:Infant; D007231:Infant, Newborn; D007234:Infant, Premature; D016901:Intergenerational Relations; D008875:Middle Aged