title: Erotic feelings toward the therapist: a relational perspective.
abstract: This article focuses on the relational treatment of a male patient presenting with sexual and erotic feelings toward the therapist. The use of relational psychotherapy allowed us to collaborate in viewing our therapeutic relationship as a microcosm of other relationships throughout the patient's life. In this way, the patient came to understand his fears of being close to women, his discomfort with his sexuality, and how these feelings impacted his ongoing romantic and sexual experiences. Use of the therapist's reactions to the patient, including conscious and unconscious feelings and behaviors, aided in the conceptualization of this case. Working under a relational model was especially helpful when ruptures occurred, allowing the patient and therapist to address these moments and move toward repair. The patient was successful in making use of his sexual feelings to understand his feelings and behaviors across contexts.
authors.affiliation: Teachers College, Columbia University.
authors.forename: Jenny H
authors.initials: JH
authors.lastname: Lotterman
mesh_terms: D000328:Adult; D006801:Humans; D008297:Male; D001523:Mental Disorders / Q000523:psychology* / Q000628:therapy; D011369:Professional-Patient Relations; D011613:Psychotherapy / Q000592:standards*; D019529:Sexuality / Q000523:psychology*; D014167:Transference, Psychology
keywords: erotic transference; relational psychotherapy; sexuality; therapeutic relationship