title: Tenth anniversary.
abstract: Abstract The author reflects on her two lesbian ex-lovers and what they have in common: the manner in which they left, each very suddenly, each with a coworker known for only a few months, and both on the 10th anniversary. After a year of grief work and painful soul-searching following the last of these two breakups, the author gained a new level of personal understanding and a balanced lover relationship. That is, despite occasional fears, she has taken the leap of faith and fallen in love again. They may decide to skip their 10th anniversary!
authors.forename: Jill
authors.initials: J
authors.lastname: Stranger
keywords: 10th anniversary; Ex-lover; breakup; lesbian; lessons; love; personal growth; rejection; relationships