Looking after Iris: John Bayley's Elegy for the Living.
John Bayley's Elegy for Iris, his memoir about living with Iris Murdoch after the onset of dementia, unsettles models of mind and agency that ignore human relationship, dependency, and the vulnerabilities of the cared for and the carer. Experiencing Iris as ambiguously absent and present while he attentively cares for her, Bayley frames his memoir as an elegy, a reflection on love and loss that conventionally represents two subjects-the author and the one he lost. Bayley's acts of care and his stories about his wife, both as she was and as she has become, sustain her moral worth as a person. Writing as an elegist, a survivor entitled to be heard, Bayley moves his experience of caring and loss from personal to social realms, from speaker to listener, opening ethical space for consolation and for social responsibility for the vulnerable.
Haverford College, 370 Lancaster Ave, Haverford, PA, 19041, USA. cschilli@haverford.edu.
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D017028:Caregivers / Q000523:psychology*; D003704:Dementia; D006801:Humans; D007398:Interpersonal Relations; D033262:Narration; D018454:Spouses
Iris Murdoch; John Bayley; Thomas Hardy; ambiguous loss; caregiving spouse; dementia; elegy; ethics of life writing; identity